I would recommend this book as required reading for every married woman- even if she chucks it across the room because it doesn't fit in with her own feministic ideals. Personally, this book has boosted my marriage to I have almost finished with this book. Personally, this book has boosted my marriage to another level.
It has directed me back to the scriptures, and has brought to my life a deeper sense of purpose, peace, and empowerment as a female. Most of all, this book has catapulted my husband to a greater level of joy in his life. A few weeks ago, he said "They way you treat me makes me want to become a better man. I want to show you more and more my love for you.
View all 4 comments. Oct 23, Lynn Joshua rated it did not like it. Graceless and mean-spirited, Debi forces on Christian women a legalistic yoke that ignores the whole counsel of the Bible. Instead of showing the fruit of the Spirit, she shows a harsh and critical spirit, she misuses Scripture, and she utterly misses the grace of the gospel. Her ideas are dangerous because she takes some true concepts, mixes them with lies, and calls her way "biblical", so her readers believe that it is found in Scripture and if not followed, will cause them to sin.
This is spi Graceless and mean-spirited, Debi forces on Christian women a legalistic yoke that ignores the whole counsel of the Bible.
This is spiritual abuse. She takes one command - "Wives submit This design is not taught in context as one of the many one-anothers of Scripture. A man and a woman in a Christian marriage are brothers and sisters in Christ. They are to serve one another, submit to one another, love one another, forgive one another.
It is interpreted as power or strength, and demonstrates how women are to be engaged in spiritual battle alongside of men. She repeatedly demeans men by insisting that all men need is food and great sex - and encourages wives to use those to manipulate their men.
There is no Godly wisdom here. Godly wisdom will manifest itself in purity, peace, gentleness, mercy, a willingness to submit to one another, the fruits of the spirit, not manipulation, control and hypocrisy.
View 1 comment. Mar 05, Bethany rated it did not like it. As a friend of mine said after reading this book, it would be more aptly titled, "Created to Be His Doormat.
The following is one of the more memorable of Debi Pearl's many appalling stories told in the book: "As a general rule, my husband just doesn't take the trash out One day recently my husband saw As a friend of mine said after reading this book, it would be more aptly titled, "Created to Be His Doormat. One day recently my husband saw me struggling out the door with a huge sack of trash in one hand and several empty boxes in the other.
Since he was headed in that direction, he volunteered to carry the heavy sack. He walked about ten feet ahead of me, holding the sack out from his body with one hand. I knew he was just showing me how strong he was.
I was amused, as usual, by his display of manhood. After nearly 35 years of having me appreciate his muscles, you would think he would tire of showing off, but he knows I have never tired of watching him perform. When he got near the large trash trailer, he was really getting into his macho thing. With great fanfare, he flung the large trash bag as if it were a cement block instead of a thin plastic bag too loaded down for his own strength. Of course, the string broke, allowing the bag to hit the side of the trailer, bursting open and dumping trash all over the ground.
I could tell he was a little embarrassed as I rushed over to clean up his mess, but he continued on his merry way. View 2 comments. Aug 16, M. This is misogynistic, sexist drivel by a woman who advocates child and even infant abuse. She apparently does not believe a woman should have her own property - if a woman has amassed savings before marriage, she MUST spend or share it after she's married, regardless of what kind of man her husband is.
So everything is now his, regardless! Her husband. Don't believe me? Look at this fuckery on their website. Debi Pearl is one of the last fucking people that I would ever take marriage advice from, just as she and her husband are some of the last people anyone should take child-rearing or relationship advice from.
These people are disgusting. View all 8 comments. Sep 28, Jane Baldwin rated it did not like it Recommends it for: no one. Shelves: christian. Among the many hideous perversions of scripture that this book contains is the assertion that the only purpose for a woman is to serve a husband.
I believe the reason God made me was so that I could have a personal relationship with Him. There's nothing in the Bible that tells me that I'm a failure if I haven't married yet. Feb 19, Paula rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: all women who are about to marry or who are currently married. What I liked most about this book was that it opened my eyes that there was more to my part of the marriage than just submission. There are a lot of really good helpful bits of advice in the book that one really needs to be open to, and prayerful about, in order to benefit from it.
Whenever you trust God and allow HIM to change your husband, instead of trying to do it yourself, God will change your husband. But you have to be willing to move aside and be the helpmeet God created you to be. And this book shows you how to do that. And despite what you might fear that you are supposed to be a silent little mouse , this book shows you how to properly approach your husband when to, what to say and how to say it.
This book takes the focus off changing your husband and puts the focus on changing YOU which will most likely change your husband. The book has several real life examples both to do and not to do which lets you know you are not alone. The book even starts off with the author talking about how she once threw stones at her husband.
All in all, this book has totally changed my marriage. I no longer complain about things my husband doesn't do. I am happy to find out how to help him. And in the areas where he does need to change, I have learned not to obsess over it anymore. I have changed, and as a result, my husband has changed. We are more in love today than the day we married.
And I am so much happier in my marriage than I have been in a long time. View all 3 comments. Jun 29, BL rated it it was amazing. After a lifetime of disappointment and failures in relationships with men, I was convicted to look at myself and see what God wants me to change. It took me a while to get the courage to read this book, however I was determined to make a change to save my marriage.
I knew the problem had to do with me stepping into the man's role when I thought he was failing and then being proud about it. What I learned from this book is that it all boils down to simple obedience to God. You can nitpick Debi Pe After a lifetime of disappointment and failures in relationships with men, I was convicted to look at myself and see what God wants me to change. You can nitpick Debi Pearl's tone or writings or whatever all you want, but the message is simply for a woman to be all that God created her to be, to be in obedience to God and to be the help meet of the marriage not the head.
Very controversial in this feminist world we live in. Apr 22, Dana rated it did not like it Recommends it for: Nobody. Recommended to Dana by: someone who needed it more than me. This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. Where do I start? First of all I don't normally like to be negative but this book would be dangerous in the wrong hands. Pearl has a door mat mentality, a sharp tongue and a judgmental self righteous attitude.
First of all a biblical wife is never a doormat and some of the things Mrs. Pearl condones border on emotional abuse. Some of the advice she gives in the book to women who have written her blew my mind.
A husband should love his wife as he loves himself. What kind of husband comes hom Where do I start? What kind of husband comes home to a hot meal his wife has worked hard to fix him and throw a fit because it is too hot outside to eat that kind of food? I will tell you what kind of husband, the kind that doesn't love his wife as himself. There were very few good points that I was able to take away from Mrs.
Pearls 18th century guide to being a door mat. I think even Abigail Adams who lived in the 18th century, and was a model biblical wife would find Debi Pearls advice to women appalling. I gave this 1 star because even though there's a lot of good stuff in there, there's also some "poison" mixed in.
Would NOT recommend to young brides unless they were thoroughly grounded in the Bible and able to discern good and the bad in this book. Feb 28, Renee added it Shelves: unintentionally-funny , preachy , warning-douche-bag , bad-parents. Apparently I should have stayed with my abusive ex husband because now I am nothing but an unhappy ragged looking poor single mom who will eventually become a lesbian and my children will hate me Oh and no man will want to be a step father to my unruly brats I can Grrrrrr.
I cannot handle this kind of bull shit. View all 5 comments. Oct 14, Malia rated it did not like it Shelves: nonfiction. Having had this book recommended to me, I dove in expecting to be challenged and blessed. While it does contain some excellent principles, I found it to also twist Biblical examples to meet her strict standards. Other reviewers concur that readers need to take in this book "with discernment," and I have a problem with that--as it is meant to instruct women to be godly wives according to the Bible.
It is dangerous to give a to-do list that is skewed with opinion and false interpretation of Script Having had this book recommended to me, I dove in expecting to be challenged and blessed. It is dangerous to give a to-do list that is skewed with opinion and false interpretation of Scripture.
I admit I didn't finish reading; I found myself expecting to find falsehoods instead of truths. While I believe wives should be in submission to their husbands, I do not agree that Deborah shamed Israel by being a female leader. I do not agree that Priscilla was a silent observer beside her husband Aquila especially since her name is always listed first. There are a number of other examples I feel the author manipulated to support her position; therefore, I cannot recommend this book to any Christian sister.
Apr 10, Adam rated it it was amazing Shelves: my-reviews , my-recommended-reads. My wife began reading this book several years ago. Through and Through Debi rightly teaches the spiritual position women need to take in life. Due to the Americanization of the modern church, things like "submission" and "serving" are frowned upon. Yet God commands women to submit to their husbands, not so that the Husband may live life his own way, but as God's chosen instrument, that he may lea My wife began reading this book several years ago.
Yet God commands women to submit to their husbands, not so that the Husband may live life his own way, but as God's chosen instrument, that he may lead the family God's way.
The husband must learn to die to himself in all things, to put God before His family and his wife and children before himself. So the wife no longer lives life the husbands way, But God's way.
Because the husband lives God's way, through his obedience to the Word. Therefore it stands to reason that God will not leave you in the hands of flesh.
If you are a woman reading this, you know that you are the Lord's precious daughter. He would not lead you to harm! Rather it requires great faith to find a perfect God in an imperfect person. But it is God's design and God's law.
God does lead you and your faith is in His word because,it is Christ who speaks to you through your husband. Also, I may not fully agree with everything Debi writes. However I am still willing to give this book a Five out of Five rating, because she has the guts to stand up for what is right and scriptural in a majorly feminist society.
It can be a difficult thing to speak out for what is right, especially with so many views and opinions against you. But She seeks to fulfill all the things commanded of her in this book. Especially, when she is commanded as an older women to: "admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
So who in the end do you obey when you do what is right and follow the scriptures? If not for anything else, submit because it is commanded of you by the Lord. Oct 24, Keturah Lamb rated it it was amazing. If I'd read this book even two months ago I may have found much to disagree with.
At this point, I'd say it was very sobering. I've never given full thought to how "Woman is for man's glory as man is Christ's glory. I wish I'd read this book way before now. Read Online Download. Armentrout by Jennifer L. Great book, Created to be His Help Meet pdf is enough to raise the goose bumps alone. Add a review Your Rating: Your Comment:. Hot The Mother by Pearl S.
Excellent book! All men and only men should read this. Defines who you should be and what you should be like in marriage. It describes how you should act with your wife.
All of this from an excellent Biblical perspective. It will help build your marriage. Jun 07, Santino Maulucci rated it it was amazing. I really enjoyed it. I recommend it to every man. I kind of like Michael Pearl. Jul 14, Ryeker rated it it was amazing. Great book for husbands to shake you up and make you consider what it means to be a husband.
May 02, Ryan Gromer rated it it was amazing. Life changing book for men! If you want to be equipped especially before marriage for a healthy marriage, I highly recommend this book. Pearl teaches thoroughly on what it means to be a servant husband who washes his wife clean with words and a lifestyle of love. Where has this been all my life? I wish I had read this before getting married. It's a punch in the gut. I love it. Every page speaks to me. Sep 12, Karena Therrien rated it did not like it.
Michael Pearl is an absolute monster and a disgrace to humanity. It absolutely baffles me that people think spousal and child abuse is the way to be Christian. Jul 15, Norm Konzelman rated it liked it. Rated 3 stars because that was in the middle. When exactly, I do not know. I read a book by an ex-pastor can there be such a thing?!
In this book called 'Spirit Controlled Temperament', Dr. Lahaye broke down the characteristics, or personalities of men into five basic ones, as much as I remember of it. Some time after that when listening to a sermon by Dr. Jack Hyles, Dr. Hyles made a point during his preaching that looks like it stuc [Raw unrevised review.
Hyles made a point during his preaching that looks like it stuck with me. Hyles did not attack the book. Hyles did not attack Dr. Hyles did not attack the sinner. Jack Hyles so much as hint at a slander towards another person. I am afraid for the popularity of these writings as they appear in some ways similar to the popularity of Dr. Lahaye's in his time. Oh, and in case you weren't sure, I'm as likely to fall into this as anyone.
So we blind ourselves, and like and accept what someone has written or said. And, sure enough, we become as dumb as a Do-Do bird to the truth trying to find it's way into our hearts. I did not say Michael Pearl did not write truth! What I am, and will say is, God wrote it. God said it. He breathed it. That's all. Do you remember anything of what Tim Lahaye taught? When Michael Pearl is dead and forgotten you will still be here with your marriage and with a God who knows more than man.
Well, some will. Well, ok. The decorations on the tree are beautiful, but the tree? This Anniversary Edition includes a new chapter on "Servitude or Service. Created to Be His Help Meet, first published 10 years ago, has sold over , copies in 12 languages. I am amazed, reading the testimonies of woman in England, India, Saudi Arabia, China, Australia, and many other countries, as they share how their marriages have been saved and enriched through these biblical truths.
One of the new chapters is called, Servant or Servitude? There is a difference. One is godly, the other devilish. Did we fail to make that distinction clear enough the first time around?
Some have indicated such. So we tackled the subject head on.
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